If you’re a man or woman looking for tips on how to last longer in bed, then at least some these 18 tips will work for you.
Before we get into this article, I just want to say that, generally speaking, it is men who seem interested in lasting longer. However, because you’re in a relationship, I like to write for men and women.
So, I’ve tried to make these tips equally applicable to the man and the woman.
Of course, there are a couple that are initiated by either one or the other, but by and large, these tips equally involve both the man and the woman.
Having said that, read these tips. If you think they’re worth trying, I think it would be meaningful if you bookmark or share this page with your partner. Don’t try them all at once, as you might be overwhelmed. Instead, pick 1 or 2 tips, and try those.
One final note before we start: discuss your time limits. I discovered that some couples have a mismatch when it comes to the length of their sex sessions.
Though there are men who don’t last as long as they’d like, there are some men who last too long, which can be a problem for the woman. Soreness and exhaustion are just 2 results of this.
Of course, this can work the other way, too.
Regardless, be sure the 2 of you have a mutual understanding of how long you both want to last.
Tips 1, 3, 4, and 14 are ones I think everyone should try.
With that, let’s begin…
1. One Small Step At A Time
When people think of lasting longer, they usually think of something overwhelming: they think that tomorrow, they have to last hours longer than they do right now.
Of course, that’s not realistic. A more realistic goal is to progress slowly.
This is probably the best tip to start with, and it’s easy: just aim to last about 2 or 3 minutes longer than usual.
Let’s say that you engage in sex 3 times a week. You can aim to extend your sessions week by week, even if it’s only a few minutes per week.
For example, let’s say that currently, a session between you 2 lasts 10 minutes.
If you aim to increase this time by just 2 minutes per week, then in 5 weeks, you’ll be up to double what your current length is now.
2. Vary Your Thrust Rate
This tip is more for the man. Sometimes, you like to go fast, and other times, you slow down.
That’s really the key to this tip: slow down…take it easy. Then, speed it up, but don’t go so fast that you “pop.”
Keep this cycle going until you’re both satisfied.
3. Pause. Take A 2 Minute Break. Then Go Again.
That sums up this tip. There’s no one saying that you can’t pause momentarily and resume.
4. Extended Foreplay
Take more time to caress and enjoy each other. Pre-sex play can be fun and enjoyable when it lasts longer than usual. And, it adds something new, which is usually always welcome.
5. Use Lubes (Or Use Lubricant More Liberally)
More lubricant will makes things more loose. Some people say that the extra lubrication not only prevents dryness and burning, but helps the couple last longer.
6. Change Positions More Often
Changing positions uses one of the tips mentioned above: pausing to take a break.
While you’re taking a break, try changing positions.
7. Notice Your Energy Level
If you find that you don’t last long, can it be related to your energy levels?
It can be that having too high of an energy level makes you too excited, and not last as long.
However, the application of this tip varies from person to person, and couple to couple. So it requires experimentation.
8. Try Extended Pleasure Condoms
Trojan has it’s Extended Pleasure condoms, and Durex has it’s Performax condoms. Though there are differences between the 2, to one degree or another, each tries to maximize pleasure.
Of the 2, Trojan’s Extended Pleasure condoms is more specifically designed for the subject of this article. It has some mixed reviews, but it’s worth keeping in mind, and worth trying.
9. Try Less Stimulating Positions
This tip explains it all: less stimulating positions delay climax.
Each person and each couple has their favorite and least favorite positions.
So, as with a lot of the tips listed here, one should experiment to know what works best.
10. Try Withdrawl
Not only can it help prevent pregnancy (though not the best method), it can make one last longer.
11. Use “Toys”
Adult toys can add a healthy distraction.
12. Distract Yourself. Think About Something Totally Unrelated.
This has worked for many guys. A lot of climaxing is mental: you’re likely enjoying the facial expressions and sounds being made.
If you want to last longer, try thinking of something completely unrelated, and see how long it takes you to climax.
13. Vary Your Depth. Don’t Always Go “Balls Deep”
I hope the visual title of this tip explains it. Most men climax when going the full length, so to last longer, don’t go full all the time. Instead, alternate between shallow and deep.
14. Breath Control: Deeper and Slower
This is perhaps one of the most important, little-thought-of tips. 2 of the previous tips mentioned thrust rate and thrust depth. A key to those tips is breath control.
Breath deeper, slower, and perhaps more rhythmically.
15. Girls, Take Control
Though this article was written with both individuals in mind, there may be times where the girl will have to take control. A lot of this depends on the woman’s personality, initiative, and satisfaction level.
16. Who Says It Has To Stop At The Pop?
Some couples can be multi-orgasmic. Maybe you are, but never knew that. It’s worth a try.
17. Try Pelvic Floor Exercises
18. Seek Expert Help
If all else fails, an expert can help out. Sex therapists, urologists, and medical doctors are just 3 professions who can help you.
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