Want to be a better partner? Then the 2 of you should read this article together. I’m serious: spending quality time together will bring you 2 closer.
There are many ways the 2 of you can be better partners for each other and grow closer. Broadly speaking, these include communicating, spending quality time together, money issues, and adding some spice to your relationship.
Because this article is about strengthening your bonds, you might find some material here that’s for more developed relationships. But, don’t make the mistake of ignoring those tips: your relationship might be new, and if you want to grow, it might bode well for you to consider some of the facets of more developed relationships. Even if you’re not at those stages yet, it’s good to have a long-term vision for your relationship.
Below are 13 of the best ways to become a better husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend.
1. Improve Yourself
When you make yourself a better person, you’re a better person to be around. There are so many ways to do this. You can be a better person emotionally, spiritually, and with your finances.
2. Explore Each Others’ Values Closely (Do You Share Them?)
One of the biggest mistakes that people make (in life in general), is that we assume that other people have the exact same values that we do.
Now, to a point, it may reasonable to expect that some people have the same values that you do. In order to function as a society, a culture, and a team, there are some overall values we must share.
This is even more true in close relationships. It’s one thing if a friend or workmate doesn’t share the exact same values that you do, but if you’re going to be in a long-term relationship, you must know what your values are, and at least share them to some extent.
Is it possible to be happy with someone who doesn’t share the same values as you do, or shares the same values, but not to the extent that you do? Sure. It depends on how well you 2 can get along and how well your relationship can function.
Here’s a point of clarification:Having the same values doesn’t mean that you don’t have disagreements. You may share the same ideals or goals, but not agree on how to best attain those goals.
That’s fine. As long as you know your destination, and if the 2 of you are objective and honest with each other, explore all possibilities, then chances are you’ll find the path that works well for you.
3. Make The Others’ Happiness Paramount
I once read a beautiful book. A key character in the book was a wise old man who had been happily married for many, many years.
He said that the secret to staying married for so long was that he placed his wife’s happiness first, even above his.
When taken correctly, that’s a very good piece of advice. If the 2 of you share the exact same values, then it’s very easy to place each others’ happiness first (or at least as a priority).
4. Seek Challenges, and Try Not To Avoid Conflicts (But Instead, Minimize Their Impact)
We grow stronger through our trials. That’s true for individuals, our personal relationships, sports teams, and countries.
When the 2 of you achieve something together, it can mean a lot more than if you were to achieve it on your own. (Granted, your partner will otherwise be happy for you, but it can take a special meaning when the 2 of you work toward a mutually beneficial goal.)
Why not set a New Year’s Resolution together (and actually work toward it)?
Depending on where your relationship is, you can set a health goal together, you can set a financial goal, you can find your dream home, or a range of other goals.
Goals should be realistic, have a deadline, be challenging, and give you a sense of meaning. Then, when you achieve your goal, your relationship will grow much stronger.
5. Understand That There Will Be Ups and Downs
Even as individuals, when we’re faced with even a trivial decision, often aren’t sure of what to do next.
How much more so for couples.
- There will be times when you disagree. There will be times when you argue and when your patience will be tested.
- There will be times when the 2 of you are away from each other—-maybe one of you has to travel from work.
- There will be times when one of you gets ill, or has a medical condition that can drain one’s time.
- Maybe one of your children is being bullied at school, and as a consequence, this is bearing down on your mutual happiness.
- Maybe it’s tax time, and you’ve found that what you have to file is more than what you originally estimated.
6. Keep This In Mind: Relationships Work Because There Is No Work
This one’s interesting. I remember one of my favorite authors saying that you can get to a point where a relationship is so “magical” that it doesn’t seem that yo have to work at it at all.
I know that sounds contradictory, simply because right now, you’re reading this article in order to learn how to “work” on your relationship. But keep that maxim in mind.
7. Don’t Forget The Communication
Communication is at the core of every relationship we have: with ourselves, our partners, or colleagues, and strangers.
Communication isn’t just the words we speak. It’s the tonality, the pitch, and the volume of those words.
Plus, communication is more than that. In fact, some say that body language can say a lot more than words can.
And speaking about things that can say a lot more than words can, keep this oft-quoted phrase in mind: actions speak louder than words.
There are little things you do can communicate that you appreciate your partner. A warm meal that’s ready when they come home, paying attention to detail when you set something up for them, and even just taking a moment to text, “I love you,” when they’re having a rough day.
8. Try To Keep Work and Home Separate
One meaning of this tip is this: if you have a bad day at work, don’t take it out on your partner or family (or otherwise bring it home).
Now, of course, if you have a rough day at work, you can talk about it to your partner. That’s not a problem. The problem can occur when you allow a bad day at work to actually hurt the person you’re in a relationship with.
Another meaning of this tip is this: if you both work together/at the same work place, be professional about it.
Depending on the work environment and the employer, this can be a tricky area. Basically, you don’t want your relationship to impede your ability to work, or hurt your progress for getting a promotion. And, you don’t want your relationship to put your other workmates at a disadvantage.
9. Have Date Nights
“Have date nights?” We’re already dating.
Okay. Then this tip might not apply to you. It’s more for those who are married, and who haven’t dated since their early days of courtship.
A date night, where you do something that resembles the dates you went on early in your relationship, can rekindle the love you have for each other. If you dated early on, a date night can spark memories of when you fell in love.
Here’s an idea: go to the same parks, coffee shops, or even just rent the same movie you watched years ago, and watch it at home.
10. Spend Quality Time Together
This is a bit of an extension from the tip above. But, you don’t have to go on dates to spend quality time together.
Spending time with family and friends is another way to spend time together.
Why not travel to some exotic location?
11. Money Issues
Yes, if they haven’t come up yet, they will. Entire articles can be written about money and relationships.
If you’re at the early stages of your relationship, then maybe money hasn’t entered the picture yet. But, if you want to live together, get married, or have a house, a mutual budget will definitely be a major subject of your life.
You’re going to have to decide how open you’re going to be with your individual financial situations, and what you expect of each other.
If one partner has bad credit, how will that be resolved?
Will it be a problem if one partner earns considerably more than the other?
And speaking about money, the next tip is a bit somber…
12. Get A Prenup?
Broadly speaking, a prenuptial agreement is an agreement a couple signs before marriage. It can detail the division of money, property, and sharing of children if the relationship should end.
In some cases, it can even detail the number of children you’ll have together.
What does this have to do with bringing the 2 of you closer?
Well, a well-done, fair prenuptial can put the 2 of you at mutual ease, knowing that if anything should happen, you’ll get a agreed-upon division of assets and responsibilities.
It can be especially fair if one partner is bringing considerably more finances and estate to the relationship. That partner may want to be sure that they’ll still have rights to their property and assets.
13. A Mutual Sexual Knowing Leads To Better Sex
And better sex can bring the 2 of you together. Learn what your partner likes, how they like it, where, and when. This blog has many well-researched articles about intimacy, and I encourage to spend some time on this subject.
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